Which one?

[Miamio]

A few matches that have responded believe if there are no common surnames,there is no match/ connection.If they don’t understand browsers and did not upload to Ged Match,how else can you convince them that one can be related without a common surname?
One match has asked me for every full name,dates,relatives of two common surnames we share..Thats a lot of work,plus he has not given me any of his.! It makes me feel there is suspicion of maybe hacking or ID theft.He apparently,is going by trees and has not uploaded to Ged Match.
So what is more important?The Surnames or browser?

[ewd76]

Surnames aren't very important at all in this situation.

[abuelita]

A few matches that have responded believe if there are no common surnames,there is no match/ connection.

Yes. But more unsettling are the "We aren't related because you aren't white and my family is white" replies. (Fortunately those are rare.)

[Miamio]

Which One

That is unbelievable.People can be so ignorant. Everyone needs to educate themselves into how this all,works.....SMH